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Choosing a Charlotte Collaborative Divorce Lawyer Might Save you Money, Time, and Stress

Our Charlotte family law attorneys help reduce the stress of separation & divorce

For many couples, separation and divorce can be traumatic, if nothing else due to the heartache that comes with the death of their former dreams for a long and happy marriage. Because the justice system is designed to be adversarial, family law court proceedings often exacerbate conflict and may fuel the fires of anger and resentment. For couples who want to keep things civil as they separate and divorce, and model respect and cooperation for their children even as they undergo this painful transition,  collaborative divorce might be a much better alternative. At Osborn Conflict Resolution, we are specially trained to help North Carolina separating couples and estranged parents to achieve lasting and amicable settlements through the collaborative process. Put simply, we have seen and experienced how a collaborative family law approach can help separating and divorcing spouses save money, time, and stress (three things that can get out of control with any family transition of this magnitude).


Is a Collaborative Divorce the Best Choice for You and Your Spouse?

Collaborative divorce allows couples to work through a non-confrontational, non-adversarial process to reach the best result for themselves and their children. In collaborative divorce, each spouse hires an attorney, but here’s the key difference:  collaborative divorce attorneys encourage and equip the separating couple to work together to reach the best plan for their future. The collaborative approach addresses all the same issues as those discussed during a traditional divorce, including:

  • Child custody and visitation rights
  • Child support
  • Asset distribution
  • Marital debt division
  • Sale or possession of the marital home
  • Spousal support and temporary support

However, rather than battling over these issues in open court, on a schedule largely determined by the court, and entrusting the result to a judge who will necessarily have limited information about their particular situation, the couple and their collaborative attorneys privately work together through a series of collaborative meetings that they can schedule at their mutual convenience. This approach is designed to reduce the stress and anxiety associated with separation and divorce, and empower the couple to maintain greater control so that they can work towards a resolution more appropriate for their particular situation. The lawyers involved are specially trained to facilitate resolution, and to help couples avoid fanning the flames of anger, fear, and vengeance–which can feel good in the sort run, but end up costing everyone involved more time and money over the long haul.


The Practical Benefits of Collaborative Family Law

The advantages of collaborative divorce are many:

  • Additional privacy – Since the agreement is worked out in private rather than in court, personal information is held in confidence and there is much less of a public record.
  • Time savings – The collaborative process goes much more quickly than one that involves scheduled court appearances and formal discovery.
  • Cost savings – Attorneys’ fees for each side are typically lower because of the reduced time factor. Also, where needed, the parties can hire neutral experts (on subjects such as the well-being of the children, business valuations, and financial planning) to provide guidance for decison-making, instead of each engaging a “hired gun” expert to battle it out in front of a judge.
  • Less emotional turmoil – The process of  dealing with your former spouse in a cooperative manner helps provide skills that are useful and beneficial for co-parenting and decision-making in the future.


Caution: Collaborative Divorce May Not Be for Everyone

For collaborative divorce to succeed, an atmosphere of trust must be created. This is much more challenging in marriages where there has been domestic violence or emotional abuse. And if one party is unwilling or unable to “buy in” to the free sharing of all pertinent information and commitment to cooperation, then litigation may end up being necessary.

If the collaborative process doesn’t work for your particular situation, you can easily choose a more traditional divorce litigation. The important thing is that you be thoroughly advised of the full range of available dispute resolution options, so that you can choose the best fit for your family.


Contact a reliable Charlotte collaborative divorce attorney today to know your options.

If you believe the collaborative divorce process could work for you, call Osborn Conflict Resolution at 704-579-5524 or contact us online to schedule a consultation. We’ll give you all the information you need to navigate this challenging transition with as much dignity, respect, compassion, and efficiency as possible.


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